· My business coach encouraged me to start working for myself. To start making something that my heart would guide...that was important to me. Little did I know this journey would lead me to become a writer/producer/actor and master of my fate, but also to live abroad and pick and choose which jobs I will take or not. It freed me. Creating my own online teaching business in tandem with producing my own work was definitely the key to a turnaround in my thinking. The effort it takes to create a structure that will support you both financially and spiritually is no easy venture. But here's what I learned: When you give birth to your dreams, doubt, insecurity, fears of not being enough worries about what tomorrow will look like fade away. What happens is you take your attention off of your fear and place it on a task that needs to happen do or die. PROBLEM I didn't like the roles I was auditioning for and I didn't like what producers were trying to pay me for my ivy league education SOLUTION I wrote a solo show and a multi-character play and produced them. Learned how to produce film and Broadway by doing it. Ended up on a Tony-winning producing team and taking four films to Sundance. Once I got to work and believe me, it's hellified amounts of work, I had no time for doubt. I was too exhausted. But something else happened in the process, something mystical, but real and totally kickass: I was hired to understudy a broadway play with the understanding that I would definitely be going on for the lead. So, I got in there and rehearsed like a mad woman. At the same time, I was also on the producing teams of two other Broadway shows where I learned so much about how to raise money, marketing, what reading nightly performance reports was all about, how much money people lose investing in storytelling, but they still do it. I was exhausted on a two show day, but the record release party for Porgy & Bess was happening around the corner from my theatre. As one of only three black women broadway producers, it was my job to show up. When I got there, I saw all these amazing artists who looked like the people of Catfish alley...with voices of angels and thought, "Why have I never seen these actors before, they are brilliant?" The answer was right there in my face, but I wasn't trying to accept it, until a beautiful chocolate man with a hot-syrup-on-a-drop-biscuit voice walked up to me and said, "Are you the black lady producer?" And I looked around and saw I was the only one and said, "Uhm, yes… He said: "Thank you...thank you for giving us work. I ain't never seen no Black lady producer on broadway." I was a puddle. I'm a weeper soft to the core and nothing makes me more tearful than someone acknowledging that something I did had deep meaning for them….connection... He then proceeded to fix me a plate of collard greens and cornbread while handing me tissue. There were a bunch of actors around the table laughing and handing me tissue as well. I was so busy being on the task of making all the projects I was working on come to fruition that I had no idea what my being involved meant to be people. I was a part of a project that gave black artists work, 401K contributions, mortgage payments, health insurance. I was doing what I wrote about in my plays: creating institutions of power for black people. **Learning how to create wealth and work by working for myself was the most important turning point in my life. It taught me my worth. It is self-love in action, there’s no place for low self-esteem when you’re dream building because the truth of who and what you are becomes evident by the things you create for yourself in others. The ability to change someone’s life for the better in concrete, tangible beautiful ways is powerful.** I was no longer a prisoner to my industry, to other peoples fears, to relationships that were draining, but never refilling my tank, loneliness in a very big, dirty, cold city. It gave me power and it taught me how much having power over my destiny is integral to my happiness. It also gave me freedom to focus on things that make me happy: Writing (instead of running to auditions for stupid jobs in the rain, sleet and snow) because i make my own work, i get to pick and choose which projects I give my time toand the rest of my time is there to have adventures, learn new languages, take a vacation every couple of months instead of waiting until I retire to start living. It gave me the freedom to start living now. And most importantly, it gave me the freedom to travel to Morocco and figure out how to live part-time abroad and how freeing and expansive that lifestyle choice is. It gave me time to stop being defined by American racism which was draining, terrifying and slowly killing me every goddamn day I don't have to worry about getting on the Brooklyn subway and a shaved head, swastika nazi sitting across from me on the train and then following me home. (yeah, shit got real …and I bought a ticket to Morocco a week later) Working for myself and traveling gave me courage, peace of mind perspective I no longer chase things because what's good for me simply comes for me. Traveling taught me not to settle for the status quo; to do things just because everyone else is doing them as if that's the only way to live or survive. Traveling taught me how to thrive and that my life is mine to do with as a I please and the expectation that people will treat me well is always fulfilled. You see when you treat yourself well, it sends a message to the world. It glows on your skin. Your light is clearly good, healthy and beautiful so your spirit will accept nothing less from others. When that message is clear, you get acceptance in return. See how that works? You manifest the life, the work, the relationships that feed your soul by changing from the inside out. This deep kind of transformation is completely within your power and has nothing to do with anyone else. Not men, not white people not racists No one can do anything to you that you don't allow.
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